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Am I A Bad Naturist?

In recent months I have been chastised here on my blog for not being a protester or standing up for my rights to be a naturist.

I suppose the problem is that unlike ‘The Naked Rambler’ for instance who seems only too keen to put on his clothes once he’s done hiking, nudity is not an every day occurence in my life. I don’t demand the right to step out of my front door naked.

The rules and regulations already enforced in the UK do not hinder my enjoyment of my limited semi-naturist life style. I reserve the right to be nude. But I don’t expect to be nude every day. I don’t hate clothes.

To quote a response on the internet to the UK nudity law question:

‘Technically, there is no law against being nude in public in the United Kingdom. Simple nudity is not illegal. However, using nudity to “harass, alarm or distress” others is an offence against the Public Order Act of 1986.

In practice, this means that if you are nude, minding your own business and practicing good nude beach etiquette on a beach that is unofficial but, by common consent, considered to be a nude beach, you are unlikely to have any problem. In England and Wales, if someone…asks you to cover up, you should do so or you could be arrested. To be charged, someone would have to prove that you were deliberately trying to cause offence.’

Maybe I’m not a naturist. Maybe I’m a textile who likes to strip on the rare occasion it’s warm enough to do so or sit in my hot tub of an evening with a few like minded friends. I enjoy swims and occasional beach visits. So what are you going to do about it? Repremand me for not being naked enough?

If there’s one thing that’s for sure, sitting on the fence clearly isn’t allowed. But I guess that’s what I love about my life. No one is dictating to me what I can and can’t do. Naturism works on many levels and I’m not sorry for failing a code I wasn’t briefed on when I started out on this journey.

Showers and Growers

The onset of winter heralds a prelonged withdrawal from naturist activities for me. I loathe the cold and despite central heating spend the winter months swathed in layers praying for spring or cowering in the hot tub. But spring has come early this year and the glorious sun of recent weeks has encouraged me to examine my summer wardrobe and dispense with my winter layers. These are exciting times.

This year I have decided to dispense with the razor. I have not downed my epilator (and never will) but I have become bored of shaving my nether regions. It’s not that I am particularly okay with displaying ‘bush’ again. I love that first day smoothness. But after that it’s all spikey and uncomfortable. So I’m trying to go for a happy medium that is tidy but doesn’t require a haircut every time I take a shower.

Even so, I’m not altogether happy about this new found look. I’ve only been shaving for a couple of years but going back to the old ways is making me feel self conscious. I do think it’s a better look for someone of my age but I feel strangely self conscious about it.

I’ve never been into the hairy look on men or women. Well groomed on anyone is fine but the profusion with which some people allow everything to grow out of control genuinely bothers me. But becoming so self conscious for growing back my bikini line has made me realise the ridiculousness of the human body.

Naturism has nothing to do with sex but the weirdness of human anatomy and the things we do to our bodies removes any sexual attraction from it. I have never been attracted to anyone I have met for the first time at a naturist event. And why would I? That instant derobing of mystery pretty much kills anything before it’s even started.

I wouldn’t say this is a new take on how I see the world but it’s certainly making me see things in a slightly different way.

Why I’d Never Go Under The Knife (Even Though I Want To)

Like most human beings on this planet there are things about me I don’t like. Namely my boobs and my hips. Standard girl issues right? If I could change these  two things I would be quite okay with myself.

Now, I could if I wanted to, deal with these issues, minor though they are in the great scheme of things. I just need about £20,000. But I am also aware that my parameters for my disappointment in my physical attributes come from the media.  If tits that hang round your waist were in vogue, I wouldn’t be thinking how much a breast lift would apparently change my life.

I got caught up in a discussion on this thanks to Twitter, The Sun and a project called Bare Reality. It started with the Sun telling us in its own enigmatic way that ‘Brit girls are ‘aving it large with multi-cup-size boob jobs‘. There’s no doubt we seem to be going through something of an epidemic of breast augmentation surgery in this country right now. So much for the recession!

Waving that magic wand (source)

Waving that magic wand (source)

Programmes like ‘How Not To Get Old‘ are in their own way also telling us we can wave a magic wand that makes us acceptable. But to whom? And Bare Reality has discovered that going under the knife doesn’t always solve body confidence issues, it merely morphs into another problem.

Certainly I don’t think that viewers of programmes which suggest this is a one-stop solution are getting a good balance of what really happens after surgery and how people’s lives have changed both physically and emotionally. There are however serious studies going on into pre and post surgery subjects to see how it has improved quality of life. The results long term have not been encouraging within all the test groups.

That being said, there’s much to be said for body confidence and in some cases I don’t doubt it’s done a lot for a person’s self esteem and general confidence. I guess it depends on the motivations for surgery and your expectations of the results. I tried to Google for some initial responses but predominantly it turned up results along the lines of whether or not surgery improved a woman’s sex life. Which again harks back to why you’re having the surgery in the first place. To be sexually attractive?

I found this website called ‘Way To Be Healthy’ and was disappointed by the first ‘plus point’ to surgery which was that you will ‘look better‘. By who’s standards? It continued ‘A breast enhancement procedure enhances your figure and shapes your bust. When you get a procedure done, you balance your figure and you look curvier. If your body is lacking definition, a breast enhancement procedure can add curves and increase attractiveness.‘ These phrases, and others which appeared on the site including that you could wear ‘stylish clothing’ whilst inspiring to the would be patient, are also highly negative in their suggestion that the patient lacks attractiveness, definition or curves in the first place and therefore needs surgery. It is presumptive. They don’t know who is reading. But to someone thinking of surgery, lacking in confidence, these sorts of phrases can be the last straw.

Bare Reality is an ‘art and social project exploring how women feel about their breasts’. There is no doubt that women, and indeed many men, have a warped image of what a breast should look like. We see them in the media, in the press, on page 3 of the Sun and in film. But they are all on perfect women. Women that don’t really exist. And it’s left many of us feeling inadequate and less than sexy.  For young women who’s sexual attractiveness is paramount, not meeting the criteria can be hard to bear. The Bare Reality project is helping women to realise that these images are not the ones you should be comparing yourself to.  That you need to look at real women.

My question, how much better did life get with a bigger cup size? (source)

My question, how much better did life get with a bigger cup size? (source)

The only thing that got me out my warped sense of self was a hefty dose of reality and regular top ups to reenforce the point. It’s one of the reasons I swim naked every month at my local naturist swim and I go naked at home as often as I can. To remind me I am normal. I am human and no matter how I feel about my breasts, it’s what I’ve got and it’s no different to anyone else. it’s a constant battle.

I manage it by filtering out all the media perfectionism wherever I can, writing blogs like this, and staying involved in the naturist community. Because that’s where it’s at.  And if more women could realise this, I think we’d all be a lot happier, healthier and more forgiving to our bodies.

In The Textile World

Every so often I pop a naturism based article into my regular Facebook feed to see who’s reading and hopefully find a few closet naturists. It never works. I get crass, childish and sexual responses from guys and nothing at all from women.

I re-posted an article from a fellow blogger on social nudity yesterday. Only one response, which was that the writer should ‘get out more and stop writing shit columns about what you presume everyone else is thinking‘.

It’s why I keep my naturist lifestyle to myself, practicing naturists and those who have the decency to stop and try to understand. I think there is no hope for the human race and I’m happiest of all keeping it at arms length.

The Naked Service Provider

I am teetering on the edge of being able to market myself as a naturist service provider. It’s starting to look like I may be moving home again. But this time I will have enough space to take my business from its studio to my new home. And this means I will be able to work naked.

But my business as a seamstress is perhaps one of the strangest juxtapositions I have ever heard. I don’t know if I can sell my services on the strength of my own non-clothed status. But can any service? Or is being naked at your job just an interesting aside to whatever it is that you do anyway?

Of course, you can’t walk around naked all the time so you might as well spend your money on clothes you are comfortable in when you have to wear them. And I guess that’s where I come in.

I have seen occasional advertisements for naturist service providers – from legit masseurs to plumbers and gardeners. I know of nude photographers (that’s where you’re naked not just your model okay?) and naked artists. I am also aware of homeworkers who spend their office hours in the nude.

But do you work in an office or other mixed environment where you are naked? Are your colleagues all naked too? Or do you have to specifically set up a company for your naturist friends in order to populate it with the people you need?

Naked at the office (source)

Nude House in Amersham, recruits naked office workers (source)

I guess it would be too much to expect naturists to be able to work eau naturale in a standard office environment. However Nude House in Amersham, Buckinghamshire, which bills itself as ‘the first company in the world that utilises the selling skills of nudists to create a comfortable environment for these nudists to operate from commercially’ is aiming to start up other ‘Nude Houses’ around the world.

Clearly this is of wider interest to the community. The International Naturist Business Association seeks to provide support to businesses and services who earn all or part of their income from the naturism industry.

Many naturist websites have a business directory for those individuals who want to integrate nudism into their business.

Nora Parrell - artist at work (source)

Noah Parrell – artist at work (source)

A lot of creatives are able to work naked. Naked art is very popular. And I suppose that’s partly because of their working environment. They mostly work alone in a home studio or other stand alone space. Of course art also attracts more open minded individuals so it’s no wonder so many creatives work nude. So in a way its keeping the naked aspect very much behind closed doors. But is it even thinkable that people could work naked in a textile office environment in the future? I think not.

I honestly don’t think nudity in public as a lifestyle choice is ever going to happen. It will always be under a certain level privacy whether it’s a closed club, business such as ‘Nude House’ or someone’s home and I think that’s just the way it is. Because people’s reactions to nudity aren’t going to change.

I found a question on Yahoo Answers from a woman naked Danielle who suggested an optional ‘Naked Day’ at work could be quite fun. The responses were saddening. One responder described a naked day at the office as being ‘embarrassing, inconvenient, humiliating and just pointless’. Others said they didn’t want to see their coworkers even partially unclothed and someone suggested it would just be full of fat old men.

Until you can deal with this sort of attitude you will be struggling. And I don’t think you can challenge people with these attitudes. Because you cannot force people to understand what nudity is really about. They have to understand it for themselves.

Finding Naturist Friends – taking the proactive stance

This year has been good for finding naturist friends in our own age groups. We had already met a lovely couple at our local swim last year and our friendship has thankfully endured. But thanks to Twitter, WordPress and Facebook it’s been a productive year and we’ve met a number of singles and couples in their 20s and 30s for swims, skinny dips and beach visits. It makes me excited about the future and who else we might find along the way.

But it’s taken work. People don’t just appear from nowhere and being where we are in the country, many people and locations are not within convenient traveling distances. I’ve spent hours on the internet, blogging and promoting, posting messages on Facebook, we’ve driven hours to events, put people up at our house and endured cold conditions for skinny dips. All worth it of course.

But now that it’s September autumn, and cooler weather, will quickly follow. We were hoping to get in another beach visit before the end of the year, but the unpredictability of the weather has made organising group events very tricky, especially when others have to travel so far to get to our nearest coast line in the Midlands.

Our main focus of attention over the following months will probably be our local swim at Sleaford which is always accommodating to accompanied guests. We have been housed in a temporary pool for the last year whilst our regular location has been undergoing a total refurbishment and we’re all excited about going back there permanently in late October.

Additionally, living conditions have changed and my partner and I now have a parent and housemate free house so being naked is no longer a novelty or a special treat. There’s also the added perk of a hot tub and a secluded garden so really we are well set up here. Swims therefore, are going to be less of an opportunity to get naked and more of a social experience and a chance to meet new people we might invite to our home once we have got to know them. We always take great care when meeting new people and I think we should all be mindful of protecting ourselves in the first instance.

Naked dinner parties are probably next on my hit list (source).

Naked dinner parties are probably next on my hit list (source).

There’s no doubt that if you want to find people, you have to do the leg work. And if you want to keep your local naturist community alive you have to join in to keep things going. Sometimes it’s very tempting to just sit back at home and get on with your own life. But trying new things with other people and particularly if you are introducing new people to naturism or just staying in contact with friends further afield is a valuable and useful task.

What’s All The Fuss About ‘Go Topless Day’?

Clearly I have missed something. What is all the fuss about ‘Go Topless Day’?

I had to check out the Wikipedia page to get some clarification on what the point of it actually is. According to Claude Vorilhon, the founder of ‘Raelism‘ (which incidentally is a UFO religion) which sponsors Go Topless Day: ‘As long as men can go topless, women should have the same constitutional right or men should also be forced to wear something that hides their chests.’

To be honest, I don’t actually see how this is an argument. It’s obvious why men can take their tops off, although many European countries still dissuade male foreign tourists with poor public etiquette from removing their tops in the streets (Barcelona and Venice for two). I think that as a woman who has just spent most of the last week naked at home, things like this go over my head. I enjoy being naked but you know what, I don’t really want to get my top off in public on a hot day. For one, I don’t want to get skin cancer. For two, the world is full of voyeurs.

I also think it defeats the object when articles like this from the Daily News post images with the nipples fuzzed out. You’re telling women to take their tops off and that it’s okay but that actually it’s not really acceptable – otherwise why would you have just fuzzed out part of the breast? How is that changing the message about bare breasts in public?

Fuzzed out nipples. We are learning nothing from events like this (source)

Fuzzed out nipples. We are learning nothing from events like this (source)

Artlcles like this from SFist are really doing nothing for the cause. Ironically it is not illegal to be topless in San Francisco. Maybe that’s why nobody turned out. They’re all elsewhere being topless but not having to beat off pervy photographers.

I’m not sure this is the way forward. If you’re trying to get people to accept things, shoving it in their faces (so to speak) or cornering them in an awkward live situation like this poor chap in Canada is not going to get people to warm to your cause.

If there’s one thing that annoys me, it’s why you can see female topless and full frontal nudity on tv on a regular basis but you rarely see full frontal nudity on men (thanks to the Huffington Post for re-educating me on that). Why is it less acceptable to see a penis on TV than a vagina or a pair of boobs? Why is one more sexual than the other? Please tell me, I’d love to know.

At the end of the day we are never going to be able to change the attitude towards nudity as a general rule. It will always have sexual connotations to certain groups of society or individuals. And that is the way it is. It’s partly because of media attitudes. It’s partly because of society’s attitudes. It’s partly because we are programmed with sexual urges and that is because we are humans. The very fabric of our society is based around attraction and procreation and unless you start up communes of A-sexual individuals that is never going to change.

So to a certain extent, we are all going to have to deal with it. It’s like going to the toilet. We all do it, but would you want to see someone taking a dump in the middle of your high street?

The Murky World Of Social Media

You owe it to yourself as a naturist and to your fellow social media friends who are naturists and would be naturists to protect your social media and guard against nutters, perverts and those who are using the naturism banner for sex or sexual deviation.

I just joined a closed Facebook group called Naturist Youth UK which is essentially for under ’24s’ and I was struck by the group suggestions that came up as being associated with it including ‘Sex Mad Dirty Lesbian Bitches’, ‘Naughty Younger Women Who Like Naughty Older Men’ and ‘Girls On Toilets 7′. These were but a few of the 549 groups it recommended to me.

Now, this group only has 29 members. I don’t know any of them and not all of them fall within the age group so I don’t know why they are all there, but I have had one or two conversations with members and they seem pretty genuine so far.  The problems may be down to the rather salubrious character of  the man who runs it. I don’t know him, but members and friends on other similar groups have warned me against him. Some have had run-in’s with him.

I am on several other closed or secret naturist groups on Facebook and I never get suggestions like this on those groups. Which says a lot about the group I have now joined. I added myself to it because of my interest in promoting naturism to the under 30s and I thought it would be a good way to get in touch with likeminded individuals and couples looking for genuine naturist experiences.

Twitter doesn’t work in the same way, and I can (and do regularly) block followers who are following the wrong kind of account holders. If you are a genuine naturist, please don’t fill your following list with 18+, MILFs and porn. And don’t think that having a locked account will keep you secret. Once I have added you I will check your list and if I’m not happy I will delete you anyway. I think I have blocked about 30 accounts so far. It gives me great satisfaction.

If you are using social media it would be as well to use them and their members as a gauge for other groups or individuals you may be coming up against. Reputations spread far and wide and if someone isn’t genuine the news will spread like wildfire.  This is a good thing, because protecting your own interests is paramount.

The Naturist Massage

Okay so let me throw another one into the mix.

We’ve done the sexual connotations of nude photography and the naturist angle, alcohol and how it apparently turns us all into swingers. Now what about the naturist massage?  Like the naturist photography session which may focus entirely on a nubile young female model, the naturist massage also has its fair share of unwanted sexual connotation. Many massage parlours that offer ‘happy endings’ list themselves under the banner of ‘naturist’.

But just as being naked should not mean sexual activity why does the act of giving or receiving a massage where one or both involved are naked suggest it should be sexual?

There are naturist masseurs who always remain dressed and it is only the recipient who is naked. There are genuine massages where both are naked. But it does not mean there will be sexual activity of any kind.

I am an advocate of massage. It’s one of my favourite past times. I give and receive. I even have my own table. If I had the money I would hire my own masseuse! I am not trained but I have taken a little instruction from a trained professional and it’s a very pleasant way to spend an afternoon.

With your partner it can be the most intimate of experiences no matter how far you do or don’t go, but equally it can be and is entirely platonic with friends or acquaintances. On the other hand I have visited a lovely lady who resides up north and gives full on ‘naturist massages’ with the happy ending. I don’t consider her a naturist just because she strips down to her underwear but I don’t deny it’s a very pleasurable experience. It’s a very separate part of her business for those who ‘need to know’. But I don’t equate this particular service with the naturist lifestyle at all.

I read an article on Naturist Freedom UK a while back which gave an interesting insight into the working practices of a naturist and masseuse who chooses to remain clothed whilst at work.  A wider gap between naturism and sex you could not wish to see. I applaud her professional boundaries and for sticking to them no matter how many times she gets asked for the little ‘extras’. Of course she gets her fair share of enquiries, but when it’s made clear she is going to be clothed, she doesn’t get a booking. These callers aren’t naturists though – at least not as far as I’m concerned. But it does imply that the link between naturist and massage suggests a more sexual form of service is expected purely because of the nudity aspect of it.

I wish my local swim would offer naturist massage sessions. We have saunas, steam rooms and jacuzzi’s and to all intents and purposes it is a bit like a mini spa although not quite as luxurious and certainly not as expensive. But a massage or therapy room really would be the icing on the cake and to me is in keeping with the ethos of what naturism is about.

Social Nudity At Home

Now that myself and my boyfriend have acquired usage of an eight man hot tub on a regular basis I have an overwhelming desire to throw open my doors and invite naturist friends over for an evening under the stars. It’s been one of those little dreams of mine.

We are extremely lucky to have two naturists friends of very similar ages living in the next village. We met at our local swim and try to catch up whenever we can though we all lead busy lives. In the past we’ve all been very restricted by living arrangements but things are changing so last weekend they came over for a try out. It was our first ‘by invitation’ to the hot tub and a more relaxed way to spend an evening you could not hope for. Being able to share it with equally liberal people is just plain lucky, from our experience and something we’re hoping will become a part of our routine.

I think as time goes on we will arrange a few more meetings. We’re very mindful to bring in people we know since letting strangers into your own home on any level comes with potential risks.  But it means we are no longer restricted by the availability of organised club gatherings, expensive travel or the weather which have always been the things which have prevented us from doing whatever we wanted.

So how do you entertain naked at home? If you’re lucky enough to have private space do you invite friends over or are you a well kept secret?

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