The Single Male Debate And The Empowering Nature of Nudity
There are more single men in naturism than women – couples or singles. I can understand why. Not to put it too bluntly some of these single men are voyeurs, peeping toms and photographers looking for a ‘dirty’ photo. And that’s probably more than anything the reason why there are fewer women.
But not all men are there to perv. There are genuine M/F couples and single men who are completely safe, trustworthy and following the naturist and nudist code. But they find it incredibly difficult to get into clubs and swims without a female by their side. Of course, a group’s priority is towards the safety and privacy of its members and I entirely agree with their stance. As a member of such a club, I want to know that my privacy is paramount.
Myself and my boyfriend do try to introduce our female friends, single or otherwise, to the naturist community. Understandably, people (particularly in the 20s/30s age groups) are shy.
But more often than not we have two issues to contend with. Firstly, the proliferation of complicated body issues. The media and peer pressure have left many women unable to accept themselves as individual and beautiful people, always feeling that they don’t match up to the perfect body they see in photoshopped images in fashion magazines and beauty billboards.
The other issue is ‘territorial partners’. They are welcome to come too of course but men are generally (and again I can see their point) protective of their female counterparts. This presumably comes back to associating the naturist community with sexual misconduct. They think men will be looking at their naked girlfriends. Well yes they will, but they won’t be wanting to chat them up or seduce them. It’s a difficult separation to make for most on the vanilla side of nude.
I don’t have an answer to this one, but it’s a problem for any club trying to encourage new members and boost the female ratio of their memberships. Many do not allow single men to join, which is a shame for the genuine single male naturists amongst them.
Existing members (in my experience) can bring guests and we have taken friends to swim nights whilst making sure to inform the club beforehand. It means guests don’t have to turn up alone and are with friends they know they can trust. Many of them are off chatting to other people before we know it. Our work is done. But I have yet to introduce someone to our swim who wasn’t already keen to attend and issues free.
Issues are fine and possible to overcome to a degree. I have found the naturist community the most empowering thing I have ever done for the perception of how I see myself. I am who I am. If you had asked me that a year ago, I was getting on the weight scales every day. But it doesn’t matter now. As long as I am fit and healthy so I can enjoy life to the full that’s all that matters. Many attendees aren’t so fortunate in health or weight but I’m not judging because we only have one body and I don’t judge whether you’re five stone or 50 stone. A swim might be the only place they can go to avoid scorn and judgement of the physical way they look.
Naturism is a beautiful and simplistic way of life. It does not judge the size of your bottom, breasts or how big your pecs are. You are you. Genuine naturists see that, and that’s all they see. Embrace it.
You might never find another community who accepts you so completely for who you are.