Solving The Problem Of ‘Single Male Membership’
Myself and a male naturist friend have been talking about how best to integrate genuine single naturist males into sun clubs and the problems of where a single man might go to get entry to a club. I have decided that if I ever have the money and the land I am going to set up my own naturist club and start breaking a few of the traditional rules on how things have been done in the past.
You won’t find many clubs that do allow single men. When you do, there is a distinctly ‘swinger’ flavour to them. And comments that most visitors to these clubs tend to be men gives a fairly unwholesome imbalance to a visit.
And this is why clubs restrict membership to couples or single women. There is a serious gender ratio problem and I can appreciate that clubs need to keep it balanced so they don’t become ‘single male’ overloaded. And I suppose that’s really the only way they think they can do it. By admitting couples or single females you guarantee that at least half of your membership in attendance will always be female.
I guess additionally, it’s also a ‘better safe than sorry’ approach to trying to keep out perverts. But of course it does unnecessarily tar everyone with the same brush and mean that genuine single males are excluded from clubs, swims and any other number of events. It’s doubly a struggle for those single naturist men looking for a partner who struggle to find a woman with similar interests. All those single females at clubs would be ideal but I guess therein lies another problem. If single women are there for the club, do they really want to get hit on by any number of eager single dudes – no matter how honest their intentions.
And I started thinking about how you would police such a club that allowed single male membership. I came to the conclusion that you just can’t. But I also found it ironic that any man could join a club or swim if he had a female partner on his arm, as if that meant he was genuine and not a voyeur or a perv. Many dishonest men are married and many of them have naturist leanings as well. Just because his wife is there, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s there for the right reasons. So there is no guarantee current rules exclude all the problem people. it’s an incredibly difficult problem to resolve.
My feeling is that a personal recommendation from current club members should be enough to begin a membership process for a single male. I have genuine male nudist friends who I would happily recommend to a club knowing they were there for the right reasons – even if they were hoping to find their perfect nudist partner. And there’s nothing wrong with that in its own right. How else is one to find a naturist partner if not in a naturist setting?